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Originally Posted by lonely and scared
I'm not sure if this is the right place to put this.
But I am a 19 year old who now seems to be paying for most of the bills and giving my mum money so we are able to survive the month.
I have been giving my mum a bit of money since I have been getting money. But now I am at uni and getting loan money and what not but it has become a bit more now. My mum is constantly asking for money and it is now leaving me strapped. I don't have a job as it isn't easy to find one, and with my uni course there isn't a lot of time.
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SHE is the mother, not you. It is up to her to find ways to support herself and the rest of the family. If you are still living with her and she is short on cash, I could see giving her a little bit of money IF you had a job, but by no means should you be paying the FAMILY'S way. YOU are only responsible for YOU only. I know it will be hard, but you need to set up some boundaries with her. If you feel comfortable enough and have a little cash to spare, maybe you can give her a SET amount, and nothing else, and only what you could afford. That money is for school and your future. She is the mom. You need to look out for you. Do not let your studies suffer because of monetary reasons because of this. Also remember, YOU have to pay back those student loans. You really need to ensure your own success and not let things get in the way of that. You sound very promising and I wish you all the best. Be sure to post more if you need some more support or even just to vent. I am rooting for you.
