I can relate. There are reasons I gained weight and "nibble" that need to be worked out first. For me, when they focus on this w/o us focusing on it it feels that nothing else you say matters to them because they think that is your only issue because, well, it must be , given their own issues with weight. This may not be true with all of them but you would think they would realize this! I do not need to pay someone to remind me of what I already know! I have a mother for that.

Anyway, I agree w/the others. Let them know you feel this way. When you say you hate yourself, that sounds like it may be more than just a weight issue? Just so you know, you sound like a really nice person to me!