Maybe he did make a horrible selfish choice which he is now very sorry for. The label for this? What is the definition of rape? Does the label change how you feel?
I think in terms of forgiveness, this is a real personal choice and no-one can advise you whether you should or shouldn't. However when we say sorry, is that because we want to benefit the person we wronged, or to relieve our own burden of guilt. So all I would throw in is if you do decide to forgive, make sure that is for your benefit and not for him to relieve his guilt.
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