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Originally Posted by danii24
its good advice n theory but i dnt do relationships myself. 4 some reason i cn advice others on their relationships but ive nvr been in 1. the "in sight into normal behaviour" made me laugh (in a good way) because no1 evr said that 2 me b4 normal behaviour usually my behaviour isnt normal !!
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Well, I'd say you do give good advice and I'm sure your behavior is quite normal.
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Originally Posted by RomanSunburn
It's kind of funny to me that you posted this thread, because honestly, I was thinking about posting something almost exactly the same!
My fiance and I have been going through some very stressful times right now. He's in the process of changing jobs (not by choice...) and I'm getting a third job. I have GAD and clinical depression also, though since we moved out here a year ago, I've been fairly under control without therapy or meds. Unfortunately, with all the stress that's been coming to a head, my anxiety and depression are starting to flare. My fiance has never been diagnosed either, but I can tell he's been depressed for months and tonight he had a panic attack.
My recommendation would be to definitely look for a new therapist. I would also check your local NAMI branch to see if they have any support groups. The one in my county offers free support groups for both sufferers of mental illness and another for family members. They might also have a list of therapists in your area that take sliding scale payments.
Tonight my mother gave me some good advice. I'm not sure how helpful it is, but she said "Sometimes he's going to be the rock for you. Other times, you're going to be the rock for him. And at times, it's going to be slippery." I know it's hard. I honestly have no idea how to be the rock for him since he's been taking care of me for the past 5 years. We have to do our best to take care of ourselves first, and try to be there for our significant others when they need us. Maybe when you're both upset, the two of you can just hold each other for a little while without talking about anything -- that way you have at least physical reassurance that he's there to support you, and you him.
I wish I had better advice for you, but I wanted you to know you're not alone. Personally, I'm terrified. I know we'll get through this, I'm just not sure how...
You can also check out the caregivers support forum here at PC, if you haven't already.
Take care. Try to take care of yourself as best you can.  |
How odd that we're going through such a similar problem! I hope everything works out for you guys. If you stay strong and stick together, I'm positive that everything will come together sooner or later.
I just checked my local NAMI branch and did find a few close support groups. I'll probably check a few out. There are only a few therapists in my area who take sliding scale payments, but it's still too expensive for me. To be honest, I'm only able to afford $5-10 right now and that just isn't flying with any of the therapists I come across (except the one I've been seeing).
Your mothers advice makes a lot of sense. Like you, I'm not always sure how to be the rock for my husband because I'm so used to him taking care of me. I like the idea of just holding each other though and I'm sure it'll bring us both comfort and reassurance when words don't. I think that's definitely something we need to incorporate into our lives.