Hi,
It was not you. There may be a genetic component but that seems to be on the fathers gene, is highly controversial, not something they test for and not anything you can do anything about.
I am aspi which will soon be lumped in with autism here in the US. I also have a 12 yr old son with autism. I met him when he was 6 and adopted him at 8... So... I didn't go through the infancy to 6 age range with him but I did survive going through it myself.
So... however we can help just let me know! And nothing is too personal or "impolite" or what ever to ask... we are pretty open... sometimes too much so.