Kitten, I've had both men fresh from a breakup and men I've been in long term relationships with having trouble forgetting about women of their past. I don't know what it is. I haven't yet met a man who can leave their past behind them and forge forward. I've had men that I've dated who have literally tried to pick up women with me standing right next to them. No, I'm not with someone that has said the fat chic thing to me. I'm at a decent weight, but I've had male friends complain to me about that issue. Right now I am in a relationship that is long distance and I suspect the grass is greener situation is reappearing for the bazillionth time. I just don't feel like I will ever be good enough for anyone.