that certainly does sound stressful belle. any chance of staying with your other daughter after the surgery? if not, perhaps setting up the parameters before the surgery would be your best option. talk to your daughter about how long yu wil get to stay at her house before you have to leave so that yu do not feel like you are being thrown out when it is time to go. let her know how you felt the last time you were there. it is a shame that you moved there for support and now feel out of place. is there any way that you could go to counseling with your daughter so that you can work on your relationship? i hope everything goes ok with your surgery. remember to breathe. it will help with the stress.