ForeverAloneGuy & qwerty: I don't think that it's terrible to "work on yourself" per se. Theoretically, we should all strive to improve ourselves as human beings. Improving yourself in ways that may make you more attractive to potential mates doesn't sound like a a very noble effort though. Money will make you an instant success w/ a lot of women. Becoming a jerk will make you attractive to a lot of women.
That would be great for your sex life but it won't make you happy and content. At least it shouldn't
When I was young I had women attracted to me simply because of looks. Throughout my adult life I had married women attracted to me for god knows what reason. Neither situation made me happy.
I never found who I was looking for and I don't have any answers that will give you what you seek.
Just strive to be a good person and let what will happen happen.
I wish I had something wiser and more helpful to tell you.