Hi Blades,

How've things been? I can see the situation you are are in and it is a difficult one for you to negotiate. Remember here too that it is not all your own doing; Mandy did come to you and return your feelings, so both of you need to talk this out. You know you will get support here though.

I do think you should probably not have contact until she breaks up with your cousin. I can see that he is painted as a bad guy, but that shouldn't interfere with your or Mandys morals or be an excuse for him being hurt or upset. What do you think?

I think you will be fine once she has broken up with him...maybe go on a date about a week later, but maybe first tell your cousin that you are going out with her. He does deserve some respect in that regard.Plus it is always ettiquette to ask a chap if he minds if you see her.

There is a lot more to people than when we first meet them, so give yourself time to get to know Mandy before you do take the step of complicating things further by sleeping together. If I were you I would tell her that you are a virgin (that is something very important, and not something you should keep from her).

Hope things are good for you, take care,

Love & Blessings,
Rhian