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eskielover · Jul 26, 2011, 09:20 PM

I understand how you felt also as you explained that it took you back to feelings you had in elementary & middle school when a similar situation occurred......those guys triggered the same emotions that you felt then which are normal emotions to feel when people treat you in that way (bullies are horrible).

Hopefully your T will help you work through your thoughts, assumptions, & beliefs that came to your mind while you were dealing with this situation. What you don't want to have happen is to allow those kind of people control your actions.....like stopping your actions of trying to be healthy & going outside & playing tennis to get exercise which you were doing to help yourself. If you allow them to control your actions & thinking, then unfortunately, bullies end up winning even when they don't even know it. They are sort of like that huge car that goes plowing by on the freeway, causing accidents to happen behind them while they go speeding off leaving the accidents in their dust without even knowing it.

It will be good to talk this through with your T....maybe you can write down some of your thoughts & feelings & reactions which can also help you work through it with your T. Know those feelings you had & emotions it caused are normal for a situation like that & bullies are horrible....but this is a good chance to talk through the overall experience & make sure you are able to put the emotions into perspective & not allow it to hurt you farther into the future but to gain your control over the situation.

I hate it when our learning situations hurt so much in the process. Glad you are feeling better about it now.....take care of yourself