I've always had an awful time trying to open up and trust people. It takes a long time before I let someone past my walls. When I first started going out with my bf we had countless debates about how I couldn't trust him. Not even about big things, but small things too. I had no reason not to trust him, he's amazing, he jumped through all of the hoops I put infront of him. It wasn't until we were together for a year that I started opening up. Almost 6 years later, I still think about that. Even the fact that he was willing to stick through all of my issues should have told me to give him a green light. I do the same thing with friends. When I meet someone, I always keep things very superficial because I just don't know how to open up.

Fast forward to now. Last August my bf cheated on me. Obviously it dissolved my trust. It makes me so angry that, knowing how much it took for me to let him past my walls, he still threw it all away for nothing. That's a separate issue to deal with. It's going to take a long time to rebuild the trust between us, but it's a work in progress.

But here's the problem. Now my lacking ability to trust is even more amplified with everyone else. How do I trust that I won't get hurt? How do I let people in?
I don't know if this is really something I can get online advice with but if anyone can relate or has past experiences or has any tips I'd love to hear them.