i was taught a most enabling meditation, called "Feeding the Demon" (within); it involves accepting and cherishing our defects, our pains, and our despair, and giving them the same nourishing love that we give our strengths, assets and endowments. in this way, we become a whole person, not wasting time dividing ourselves (into the accepted and the unaccepted, the laudable and the abhorent). i can say personally that this has been a major facilitator on the pathway to mental health, and psychosomatic health. i hope those of you who read the above post will give it serious consideration. best wishes,, Gus