I've been married for almost 2 years to the most wonderful woman in the world. Before I met her, I was married to my high school sweetheart. She ended up cheating on me (had an 18 month long affair). I took her back and we tried to work it out, but she decided (3 years after the affair) that she wanted a divorce. Here is my dilemma...I have these major insecurities that I fight constantly. I keep thinking that she is going to leave me, or that I'm going to do something to push her away and then she will leave me, or that she will find another man and leave me. I know these are all unfounded as she has never once ever lied or hidden anything from me. As a matter of fact, it is I who lied to her because I didn't want her to be disappointed in me and leave me. I can usually control these, but sometimes these thoughts catch me off guard and I loose control and say something that hurts her. I HATE MYSELF WHEN THAT HAPPENS. She is not a judgemental person, so I know that I can tell her anything. I just want to live my life without these stupid, unfounded...and sometimes irrational fears....before I do something and push her away forever. Any input would be greatly welcome.