It may be, for example, that the hurt feelings we feel are telling us to change a limiting belief we hold, such as “I’ll never get this right.”
boy can i relate to this quote. before CBT therapy i felt doomed. i feel it fed into my depression.
dealing with these negative beliefs in a constructive way i knew was needed. it was painful to even reveal those inner thoughts to my T. thank goodness i trusted him enough that we discussed them. dr. ellis's book A guide to rational living helped me also. i could identify with every false belief i had about myself in his list. i often cried while learning to toss much of the misinformation i had carried around so long. i'm a work in progress but now i have the tools...rational. often i need to look into myself and analyze my thought. is it real? do i really know that for a fact? all this started in my childhood and each layer was applied til adulthood. i had a lot of onion peeling to do. i went thru the pain...i emerged on the other side with more wisdom and a healthier self. i learned to love myself and be more accepting of self. i learned i would never be perfect, tho i once thought i had to be, and feel comfortable in my own skin. i continue to work on it. i have certainly not mastered this completely. life is a journey of self realization.