Hi... I have a little bit of a different perspective on the situation. Thought I would chime in and maybe get in a little bit of trouble, but oh well. I think learning japanese from a girl on myspace and going to eat with another guy friend and her at a late hour is not a breach of confidence. He could have called you at 3 a.m., but I think it was more of a spur of the moment thing. Every relationship needs some space and air to breathe and trust. If he breaches your trust... then you have an issue. In my opinion he did not do anything that was out of line. Can you trust him?