Hi,

I would suggest you both work on improving your communication so you can be on the same page in this relationship. She obviously has issues she is not divulging. Not sure if this is your wife or gf. I read in your other post you have tried to get her to a psychiatrist. Some people are resistant to this due to the stigma surrounding it. Even admitting depression and going on antidepressants is difficult for some people who have been taught that it means they are "crazy". I would suggest couples counseling for the very reason I stated above. Try not to blame or use an accusatory tone when discussing things, ie. calling her selfish and all that. You have to indicate that you truly love her and want what is best for the both of you as a couple... assuming you do. If she wants that as well you can then move forward.