Dear Wallysan,

WELCOME.....

1st - Does your wife know of how you were once hurt by another female? - if not I would strongly suggest that you let her in on the SECRET (and not just the story, but it made / makes you feel). People can better handle any given situation if they know where the other person is coming from..... their side of the fence.

2nd - I want to assure you that you are reacting normal to the internal hurt you have suffered and this is why you are now repeating the cycle.... you need to resolve the old wounds created by your ex-wife you will always mistrust your present wife.

My basic belief system is based upon a good book I have & recommand called: "Feeling Buried Alive Never Die" - that which is left in you (in your heart or mind) will control you if it is left on its own.... you must face, deal with and then bury the past so it does not control your present.

3rd - Apologize to this wonder woman you have been blessed to have and to hold.... learn to control your feelings and to realize that feelings are just that (feelings) and they are not always the TRUTH in the matter, never the reality at hand.... you must control your irrational feelings (based on past wounds) or they will destroy her love for you.

When ones thinking (the mind) and one feelings (the heart) is on different wave lengths (or) different levels - the feeling will always win out.... rather it is right or wrong.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -