Thank you very much for the links Melinda, they've been really eye opening. Also, it really helps to get the perspective of another woman-cheater, since alot of the material out there is only directed at men who have cheated.

I've been cheated on in the past (by someone else); and I got a small taste of what he went through when he had sex with another girl one of the times when we were "broken up," but still living together. I didn't feel that he'd broken my trust, but I did feel betrayed emotionally, and I'm terrified of running into her. I can hardly put into words the feeling that I get when I see her or think about her, it's just an incredibly strong emotional wrenching.

Which helps me begin to understand how he's feeling, and what I can do to help. I'll definitely ask him if there are any ways that I can give him the rights to my privacy, or if there's anything else I can do.

Thanks for the advice!

Jessie