My dad's bday was yesterday. I didn't call him on father's day so I called him to say happy bday. For the first time in a long time we talked for over 20 mins which was weird but nice. He even mentioned that him and his wife (unfortunately) are planning to come and visit around Labor Day. I said that would be great. Rather her not be here but oh well. They were going to drive here, stay for a couple days and then drive to her sister's house which is only a couple hours away.

So he calls me today and says that his wife suggested that my bf and I drive to her sister's house and stay with them for 3 days so that they can see everyone for a longer period of time.

Can I not just see my friggen dad?! I don't like her. I don't like her family. They don't like me. I won't even get to see him bc she won't let him out of her sight! I honestly couldn't tell you the last time I was alone with my dad any time anywhere. Just doesn't happen. Probably been at least 5-6 years. We talk on the phone maybe once every month or 2 but she is always in the background.

I know some of you know my situation with my dad and how our relationship isn't what you would call great.....what should I do? Should I suck it up for a weekend to see my dad for maybe an hour or so? Should I stand up and say "no. not with her there".? I don't know what to do. I don't want to go but I don't want the tiny part of a relationship with my father to be ruined. But I have been putting up with her ruining things for over half a decade! Ugh!!!