Thanks. I think he will be extremely mad if I don't go. But I feel like, if he really wants to see his daughter, he can do what needs to be done to see me. Now it is starting to feel like she wanted to go see her sister and they would have felt guilty coming to the same state and not somehow seeing me.

This is how I think it will go. I'm getting pretty good at being able to predict his responses. I will tell him that I don't feel comfortable being in their house and that it wouldn't be a good idea for me to go there. He will act okay but get upset and tell me it's fine. Then he will call me either later that day or the next day and say "he" has decided to only go see her sister and won't be coming to see me. Most likely we won't speak until my birthday. After that we won't speak until Thanksgiving and maybe Christmas.

I feel like the more I think about this and the more I go along with their stupid games/antics...the more stressed I'm making myself. I know I need to just stand up for myself and say....I was a good daughter, you were not a dad. Period. Be there for me or don't be there at all. But I just can't bring myself to do it. So instead I'll probably go cry for the night and then agree to it and be depressed the whole time. (See I'm getting pretty good at predicting how I will respond, too)