I only have a few moments before I have to leave for work so this is going to be short. I might come back later and respond more.

The last thing in tsol's response is so true... Just wanted to say that...

Also, I'm not sure you can make this decision entirely on your own. If you both decide to stay together, then it's going to be a lot of work from both of you. I hope he is doing as much soul searching and thinking about your situation as you are. The two of you cannot say you will stay together and then only one person do the work, because that is simply setting you both up for failure.

Tsol and Starvin' gave you some great advice. I'm off to work now, but I still thinking about this. Going to mull it over some more.

Take care, good luck!