Sweetie, I know the silent type!!!! My husband is just the same! I've told him for years to start talking and to really let me know what he's thinking or feeling....NO result. Sooo frustrating!
You're not doing anything wrong as I see it. Two people married to each other have to learn to walk half way each and to meet up in the middle. Not an easy task though! Try to sit down in peace and talk to your husband. Try not to say like...: you do that or you say that... instead try to talk more concentrated about the issue. For example: When our son doesn't listen maybe we could.....what do you think about that? I thought about our son's behavior and been thinking about the way we're handling it. What do you think we can do better to make it run smoother in our home?

I certainly not mean that I'm better than any other parent! I don't mean that I always do as I wrote above, but it's something to try learning. I'm far from perfect and often feel like a terrible mother and as you probably know it's easier to give advice to others then dealing with your own issues.

I'm only saing this because I feel for you in this situation and can see me in the same shoes.

You're a wonderful mother! Nobody's perfect!