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Old Jul 29, 2011, 08:42 PM
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Hiya Happycheeks. Yes, it is ok. You have just a few, I have just a few, many many people have just a few. Some are ok with it, some wish they had more. In either case you can enjoy the few that you have without having to worry if maybe you should have more. As we go through life we see friendships fade, and we find opportunities to make new ones. It's just how it is.

You may have hard time making friends right now because you are shy and sensitive at this point in your life, and you do not feel confident interacting with people. If this is how you are right now, that's ok. But you may change.

And there could be other reasons people have so few friends. I know people who had almost no friends in high school because of the highly competitive, cliquish and mean environment, but as they moved to a college everything changed, everyone was ok, and they discovered that making friends was easy and natural.

So when you feel lonely, do not "console" yourself with stories that you are born to be lonesome loner, that you are doomed to live friendless, or try to "explain" why you are alone by berating yourself for not being good enough. These are not true, and even thinking them hurts, and if you believe them you will tend to act accordingly. Instead, I would like to encourage you to relax into now. Accept that it is, what it is, but also allow things to change tomorrow or next week, next month, next year.

And you'll always have friend here. Yes?