I'm really glad that this post could be helpful for you too! I think one of the hardest parts of bipolar is knowing that you're hurting others, but not always being able to stop yourself in the midst of a manic episode....you just feel like a tornado, ripping up your own life and others.

It's hard to keep an understanding of the bipolar partner's illness in infidelity, while also not using it as an excuse. Mental disorders in general are often thought of (by the general public) as a weakness of will, as in "if she'd just try harder she wouldn't be so_____ (depressed, anxious, paranoid, etc)". I think that being proactive in making yourself healthier (meds, therapy) is a good step in asking for forgiveness from your partner.