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Originally Posted by Brianna84
Thank you for your response. I have been trying hard to figure out why I cheated. I believe it was mostly the problems our relationship had to begin with. Also, loneliness (he had been out of town for two months already at that point, with two and a half more to go).
I would, and do, feel totally lost and alone without him. I feel like I've not just lost my boyfriend, but my best friend. I cannot see myself with anyone else. He meets most, but not all, of the qualities I would want in a husband. Still, I do not know if it will work. He wrote me a scathing email tonight. I have to get up in 4 hours yet I can't sleep because of this.
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Hey Brianna,
I think tsol25 gave you some good advice about talking to your boyfriend about counseling. One thing I've learned from my degree is if you want someone to do something, you have to pose it to them in a way that they see the benefit to themselves.
I'm sorry you received a difficult email; he's very hurt and sometimes people lash out. Once again though, figure out the root of the behavior and the "why" and it will give you a little more perspective. Do you feel like you can't talk to each other or you don't trust each other (I mean before this happened)?
No one is perfect, but finding someone that you don't mind the imperfections with and can communicate... that's the key! Keep us updated!