I felt fairly comfortable talking to him and I definitely trusted him, before this happened. I think he did feel the same way but, obviously, doesn't trust me too much now.

We did have some communication issues, for sure. One of them being my (and maybe his?) hesitation to bring up problems we were having with the other until they had reached the breaking point. Yeah, it's a fairly common problem. That was something we were working on in counseling.

I got a little defensive when I responded to that email. That was probably a mistake and I realized it after I sent it so last night I remembered to remind him that I am ashamed of what I did and it kills me that I caused him so much pain and that I am sorry even though "sorry" doesn't really seem adequate to describe how I feel.

He responded that he goes back and forth between believing that. Is that normal?