I don't thing you were too hard on the counselor, as a counselor she should have been more careful with her wording. You might have better luck with a different one.

I think if you are already replacing the image, the more you work at it, the quicker you'll be able to get rid of it, until one day, you will have smooshed it before you even knew what it was.

Do you think being around a place with woman and children would help. A busy, public place so you don't make yourself too uncomfortable. But being in the area and taking note of the fact that you aren't having those thoughts?