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Jul 31, 2011, 10:11 AM
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Member Since: Mar 2011
Location: USA
Posts: 12,871
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My guy used to say "You can't take criticism. He was right. Nobody does, but I used to think I was above reproach in everything I did. Glad I'm not that dumb anymore. Part of the problem between us was that he did not know how to criticize. He always spoke in sweeping absolutes. He'ld make dismal predictions. "I know you're not going to be successful at your new job." (That was the worst. Sooo demoralizing.) The finale to his lectures was always, "I'm just giving you constructive criticism."
It is worth it to be the one who engages properly, even if one is the target of abusive criticism. Over time, he seems to be following what I role model. That is very gratifying. I may print the article and hang it on the fridge. 
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