Update:

Daughter just called. It isn't working out with Alex. He is only happy when the children are asleep. When they are awake, he spends most of his time in my daughter's bedroom closet. So Alex will be coming home :clap: and Daughter will take Mike's advice to adopt a cat from the shelter. She'll take the children with her when she chooses one, to find a cat that is not afraid of children.

We were working out whether she should drive him back, and have to bring the children along, or we can go and pick him up. I don't drive, it would have to involve Mike if we went to pick him up, so I asked him whether he wanted to go there, or have Daughter bring Alex here.

He promptly replied, "It's up to you."

I didn't know whether to or , and I responded, "Please don't say that." Then I explained that I don't want to be left with the decision, and then chewed up for making the wrong one.

So, the Alex situation is wonderfully resolved, but does anyone have anything to say on the subject of "it's up to you"?