Update: The bully is back. My husband is trying me mad. Yesterday was one of those days where I was ready to just leave him and be done with it.

1st situation: We are in Walmart and he decides to wonder off and tells me to wait there for a minute and he will be right back. I wait at the dressing room (because my brother needed to try some clothes on) for at least 5 minutes. I text him "WTF? Where are you? He needs to try on his clothes." This is something that is common vocabulary for him to say all the time. He sends me a text back saying "watch your mouth" and was mad at me the entire time we were in the store because he said I shouldn't talk to him like that (yet he says that all the time). I was trying to get him to hurry up so the kids could take a nap before we went to a wedding and we would have time to get a bite to eat.

2nd situation: We are at the wedding and I had bought my daughter the wrong size shoes. They started giving her blisters on her heals so I put band-aids on them. The more she walked the band-aids were peeling off because she wasn't wearing stockings. I told her as long as she was sitting at the table she could take her shoes off. She got up to wave to my husband who was letting our son play on the dance floor and he told her to put her shoes on. I told him that I told her it was okay to keep them off. He tells her to put them on and she starts crying and lays her head down on the table. He leans over and says "If you don't stop crying, I am going to take you to the bathroom and give you something to cry about." He then walks away. I comfort her and let her sit on my lap. Meanwhile, my son hits his head on something on the other side of the room. My husband walks over with our son in his arms and says "See. He has a reason to be crying". I said so does she". She got her feelings hurt and has blisters on her feet. He said "Keep it up and I'll go sit in the car." He stomps out and goes to the front of the building and is smoking. I walk out there and says she is getting what she wants by seeing us argue. I go back inside and as the night goes on he acts like nothing ever happened.

It's like he sees blood and then goes in for the kill. He will see her crying and then keep on her until she is broken. I feel like he attacks her and I have to intervene because he just doesn't know when to stop.

Since I have told him that I feel like he is emotionally abusive towards us, he makes smart remarks now like "yeah, because I am so mean to her" or "yeah, because I abuse you". He doesn't even take me seriously.

I don't even want to try anymore.