@melancholy65 i guess u wanted advice from strongerman. surely its a good bet. dealing with an individual who does not respond in a 'normal' way and in confusing manner can be frustrating. tho i am done trying to understand and adjust with the narcissist/ dependant personality of a husband. i could figure out that you have not been able to start an open dialogue of interests and mutual understanding. however as compassionate individuals we have to understand that we do often atttract very sensitive and dependent persons into our lives. more so since they know they can depend on our conscience to eke out all the love and attention they crave for. it could be very a feel-good affair but can in the long term ( in the absence of definite steps to self improvement on the other partner) can become emotionally draining. be aware and be wary. follow your heart think about what feels right for u and for your relatnship in the long term. u seem to be smart professional. all the best and keep the faith.