Hello & Welcome, Silent_Kid!
"Go ask a pro bro" is great advice, but here are a few non-pro thoughts:
- Neither you nor your mother can solve your father's problems; they're too big and complicated.
- I suspect many would encourage you to make securing your own immediate safety and sanity your priority.
- It is not helpful to get mad and berate your "father"; your real father has been hijacked by meth and the "person" with whom you are currently interacting is another persona.
- Is separation -- not divorce -- an option? Try to get yourselves away from physical and additional psychological harm.
- Call 2-1-1 (in the USA; United Way/AIRS Information & Referral Helpline).
There's no minimizing the challenge of this situation. Please try to save yourselves and call for help.
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mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it.