Having read your post, but not all the responses, I have this to say: If you leave your husband, do it for yourself & your children. Do NOT leave because you may have regrets about the other guy. If you leave for the other guy, that's bound to not work out because you are going to have too much going on to be able to focus on a new relationship.

Also, if your husband is being verbally abusive to your children AND on pills for anxiety, etcetera, is it possible he has a diagnosable mental illness such as, bipolar.

I don't know you or your husband & I'm certainly not one to say whether this man is right for you or not, but again, don't leave for another man/relationship. Don't stay because of the kids....especially if he's verbally abusing them which it sounds like he is.

If you decide to leave your marriage, do it for YOU. Don't worry about other men or relationships or what your husband says he'll do to make you stay. If something is unhealthy & not working, find a way to make it work for YOU...& of course, your children. Weigh the pros& cons. Leave money & all that kind of stuff out of it too. I stayed in a bad marriage just for that & it was a mistake. In the end, even broke, I was better off. My ex husband did the same thing to my son that your husband is doing to your daughter. I regret not leaving before I did.

Not trying to tell you to end your marriage, but a lot of times these kinds of things only get worse before they get better.

Take care of YOU & your children first & foremost.