Thanks all. Yes, ww, it is something I am having to relearn.(The ptsd causes reaction.) I still don't automatically click into calm and serene, but being so ill helped. Actually, of course, T is responsible for my ability to have done this... constantly working with me to not allow other people's incompetence to get to me, as it causes me so much more pain!

I'm finally able to begin to put what I know into what I do on these things: my becoming upset only hurts me. Stress and pain... well, I have more than I need already of them!