I have learned to not believe, trust or rely on anyone except me, that way i do not get let down, people who were friends for years when i was ok to do things for them disappeared into thin air as soon as i needed them to help me! I find it hard to understand why people say things they are not prepared to stick to. I know my childhood was not right, but i was brought up to do what i say i will do, and to never break a promise, so how come it is ok for everyone else to break promises and dismiss what they say they will do???
I never expect anyone to do anything for me these days, if they do then it is a bonus.