It took me a very long time to figure why none of the relationships Ive been in in the past worked. And why they all failed, and ended. Used to think it was everyone else, that I didn't have a problem (back when I had no idea what bipolar was, or that It). Kept blaming everyone else for why things went down the way they did, not to mention why we fought so much.

One day its dawned on me (when i was around 25 or so), in every single relationship there had always been a part of the equation in each situation. Which was me. And to solve the problem, I had to take that part of the equation out of the situation so there would be no more problem. Realizing that, and doing it was harder then I imagined however, as I didn't want to be alone. I still don't want to be alone. Yet, I feel as if its for the best I do stay this way.

As I'm sure everyone out there knows by now, being with someone who is bipolar tends to cause a lot of problems in a relationship, not to mention its extremely hard to make for a lasting one.

While there is some out there that do make it work, and have went on to live, and have happy relationship's with someone who is bipolar. It is still quite hard on everyone involved, as the person that has bipolar tends to fluctuate in dealing with their emotions, and moods. Personally, Ive heard more ppl that cant handle being with someone with bipolar then Ive heard of happy endings.

Ive been alone now for nearly 4yrs due to my disorders, as I feel I'm doing a person that is interested in me a huge favor by not allowing them to be in my life, other then being friends. When I was 28, I was told that I had borderline personality disorder (among other disorders) and i was gonna be on an emotional roller-coaster ride for the rest of my life. And anyone that was gonna be in my life was going to be on the emotional roller-coaster ride right along with me.

I had a few relationships after that, which taught me even more about myself, however, one of the things Ive learned was that it would be extremely selfish of me to want, and allow someone in my life as a gf, or anything else. Not to mention it would rob them of the chance of being with someone who could offer them stability, and happiness, which I know I would not be able to offer.

As is, a woman can do much better then me. As all i could offer would be a lot of unwanted baggage, and I say this cause its not easy for even myself to deal with what I go thru on a daily basis. I know it would be extremely hard on the other person as well.

Why am I going on about all this? More or less to give others an idea of what being in a relationship with someone who is bipolar is like. With that being said, i know everyone is different, not to mention everyone deals with, and handles each situation that comes their way differently. Yet, the bottom line is this. Being with someone who is bipolar is extremely taxing, not only for the bipolar person themselves, but also on everyone else involved. Especially the ones close to him/ her.

So, weather your an individual that is getting involved with someone who is bipolar, or you are already in a relationship with that person. I highly recommend taking the time to think, in depth, weather you really want to be with that person. I'm sure some of those who are bipolar that read this will be upset with what is being said. Yet, keep in mind, I am also bipolar. I know full well what your going thru and all that. I'm just trying to help others is all.

With that being said, I am deeply sorry if anyone gets upset, or hurt by what is said in this posting. It is was not my intention to do so. And I humbly ask for your forgiveness. In closing this out here, I will wish and hope everyone has a wonderful day.