You are all right. She has self esteem issues, she's totally co dependent and yes, she had told me first hand these things. I know if it didn't involve a child I probably wouldn't even consider doing anything. I think if she brings it up again, I will mention it once and let it go, and then she can do with thew information what she wants. I think she thinks because it's only once in a while, it's not worth dealing with and I think that's totally sick. But what do I know?