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Originally Posted by Leed
The way I see it is that it is TOTALLY up to your fiance' to straighten his mother out! He should have a heart-to-heart talk with her, and tell her that his life is his OWN -- and if he needs any input from her, he'll ask for it. But he's GOT to step up to her. Otherwise, this will continue forever.
I had basically the same situation with my ex -- he wouldn't stand up to his mother. I finally had to BLOW -- and after that, she started to behave herself. But I shouldn't have had to do that -- it was up to him.
If your fiance' isn't willing to talk to his mother, then I'd be ready for a lifetime of interference from "Mom." Either that, or rethink your plans to marry. Best of luck & God bless. Hugs, Lee
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Thanks for replying Lee, it means alot!
The problem is he does try and stand up to her but she doesn't seem to listen. She turns on the water works and says that she's just trying to help, but her input is very rarely helpful or constructive. Because she doesn't listen to him, they go round and round in circles and he gets cross. He reacts and adds fuel to her fire and they clash terribly.
We were informed yesterday that because of this whole silly situation they are cancelling their holiday away (not a trip to see us) as they are too upset. Things like that just make my fiancé feel guilty, even though he hasn't done anything wrong.
She has also, according to her younger son whom she has been ranting at about this arguement, totally forgotten why she was angry in the first place, but instead remembers that my fiancé is just angry with her. I know anger makes you forget but c'mon! She did the same when she didn't approve of two trees we planted in our garden, and now denies she was ever angry over that even though my fiancé didn't speak to her for a week over it.
He was still very upset last night, thinking he's going to lose his mum and dad. I said you just have to try and have a calm conversation with them over this as it'll never get better.