Jan,

Actually I may have had even a better thought. Maybe to heal, you need to envision yourself taking the phone call about your Dad. Then in your vision you say to whoever who called in a dispassionate way, "Thank you for letting me know." Then you walk over to your sofa, click on the TV, and reach for a box of Russell Stover chocolates. You then smile, and have a chocolate.

Then you envision yourself calling to make an appointment at a all-day spa, the day of the funeral.

This is all to say that I am now going to begin to take care of me and learn to think of myself as special. I am going to become a new me.

Or you could call your travel agent in your vision, book a flight to Mexico, and get on the plane smiling, and fly off into the sunset of your new happy, abuse-free life.

(((((((((((((Jan))))))))))))

Hugs,

EJ