he sounds exactly like me and im borderline.
im on meds now though that control my outbursts so i dont suffer fits of rage like this quite so erratically at the moment but when im not on my meds i am exactly how you describe your husband to be. its horrible cos you dont even realise you are doing it half of the time. and when you do realise you cant control it.

i take it it has gotten to the point where it has just got so bad you need to seek help hence the reason for coming here to seek opinion? has he always been like this or has it gotten progressively worse over time?

his background seems pretty damned similar to mine also. my mum is an alcoholic and neglected me growing up as a child and my dad is a compulsive liar and narcissist and gambled his life savings away and lost our family home just two months ago.

the bad news is this is a severe mental health disorder and can turn pretty ugly. i hit self destruct mode before i (or anyone, or anyone that cared to tell me lol) noticed the signs of recklessness. not even i noticed me slowly depriving myself of a good life. i got really really ill. several suicide attempts and hospital stays etc. but before this i was drinking heavily, having unsafe sex, frittering money away like money grew on trees, thoughts of self harm, bad self image, no self-respect, the whole abandonment thing which was a major thing for me which you will learn about if it turns out your hubby is borderline.

the good news is he has you and you recognise a problem. he recognises a problem. you are awaiting an assessment!!!! I had to get sectioned under UK Mental Health Act before i got assessed because i got so ill. yikes. but less about me... back to the good news... there is treatment that can help. im on medication that has radically improved my moods. i rarely throw things,,, break things,,, scream in anger if a dirty plate is on the living room floor,,, throw my remote at the tv if the button gets stuck on the sky remote,,, launch my shampoo bottle out of the bathroom window if i spill an ounce too much out of the bottle lol.

and therapy will help too. so all in all, you are on the right path to a good treatment plan!! good luck xxxxxxxxxx