just a suggestion red....maybe you both can involve yourself in some activities that will help evaluate your true mental states or even something that brings energy and peace such as meditation classes, sports? maybe it will bring out his true feelings and thoughts and give you the energy to deal with the draining happening to you.
well , i guess i know how my energy -leech of a an ex is such a pain. he used to admonish me(still...) for not reading all his mails about his rantings about his new found better lifestyle and mature thinking. and when i did give him a deadline to come and submit the petition for divorce, he stopped calling and mailing for weeks. he sends me a mail today saying he had tried to send me a reply which the 'evil' technology messed up and maybe i didnt get the mail. now he is trying to play mind games since i do not know what he 'tried' to mention in those mails , if he ever did, and now he has the nerve to ask me to coperate and not stop all communication with him yet'which might unnecessarily complicate things'. he will contact me when he fancies and expects me to be at his behest whenever he calls .
. i will take no more. i am going to seek better legal advise to get things done my way.let him know how irritating it is to keep someone waiting for a response and live in uncertaininty everyday. controlling myself from puching these pillows....... its draining and when it does i want to seek out a release, something that makes me feel good about myself and definitely lighter and energised like some breathing exercises. it works!:-) all the best for my friends who battle with their own minds, more power to u!