YES! I guess we were in very similar situations. If they can not love themselves they can never lover others. The love, compassion, understanding and acceptance of them is still not enough. I know the hurt and angst over this. I have to say this was the only man I have ever had a relationship with as this. I have always had good men in my life..boyfriends...brothers...husband and dad. It was only the bad mother relationship. I was married for 25 years and he was a truly wonderful man with a lot of integrity...there was just another very personal issue between us that ended the marriage. So to have this kind of situation has thrown me for a loop. I went for the "bad boy" i guess. He will never let someone love him. I actually ended it all recently...as I have before and he will eventually text to say something and things inevitably start over again. I have said goodbye at least 4 times and he never will. I told him I would stay out of his way...that he needs to work out his life. So lately it has been me checking in on him...and he seems distant...I am sure depressed ...but I am so so so tired. I do not want to be concerned with him....I want out. I told him there is nothing I can do if he won't let me be there for him and he says nothing. So this leaves me feeling badly as I feel not enough....even though I KNOW I shouldn't ...it is just the way it is.