Hi babyfairyfifi,
Lack of Empathy, is a protection tactic of the inner child. If I don't care, then my inner child will not be hurt. That is one area in my life that I was never aware of until recently. I could say "Blustery" statements to my wife and kids and all I have been doing is instilling fear of me in them and driving them away. I have been recently diagnosed as having NPD. At first "who me?" However, I needed to look at the history of my behavior. Not so nice. Picture if you will the scene in the Wizard of Oz. He was "Blustery" and expounded fear to all who approached him. It took a dog to pull back the curtain, exposing a really scared man that was creating this big bad persona! I have found in my journey that if I can put a handle on the cup, I can over come that obstacle and learn from past and current errors in my life.
Empathy is love, caring, and understanding of the other persons feelings.
Lack of Empathy is like dealing with a Great White Shark. I very much want to change that persona of me.
Griffy2
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Originally Posted by babyfairyfifi
Does anyone else know a Narcissist who clearly lacks all empathy but hotly disputes this , and claims to have masses of empathy?
My mother has NPD and has alienated everyone around her. At one point, last summer, she had successfully cut out everyone except her dog and her hired help .
She has damaged my father ( who has never had a relationship with another woman since divorcing 35 years ago) she has just buried her second husband ( who committed suicide after a very dramatic row with her) she stopped talking to her own mother 10 years before she died and told me to stop being silly when I was upset when she died, citing her reasons : Dead is Dead. She disowned her sister and two brothers, myself and her grandchildren. Only my 30 year old half sister remains as her sole source of Narcissistic supply ( in exchange for financial support).
I have had to consciously protect myself from wanting a relationship with my mother as I know it only leads to pain and drama. Unfortunately that means sacrificing my relationship with my sister too.
I'm sad to think she will die a very lonely and sad lady.
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