She reckons shes been in love with him for 4 years, i think the relationship ended because of the distance issue because as i stated in my last post he lives over 600 miles away, and she reckons she loves her husband but only as a mate now.

Yes you do have a point that she is probably making a fantasy love because this other guy was never around cos he lives so far away so she has never really seen any cons about this guy but with her husband, hes there everyday so she sees the annoying parts about him, but in saying that he bends over backwards for her and he mostly does what SHE wants to do wether it be buying what she wants or going to see her parents and other siblings (which is AT LEAST twice a week), letting her see her mates etc, and never gets to do what HE wants, he hardly sees his mates, always running around after her, hardly even sees his own family (that includes his mother), heck she even complains when he decides to play games on his playstation complaining that hes giving the game attention and not giving her any! and she still has the cheek to say hes not putting any effort into the marriage!? i mean like what the heck, i dont know how she can even SAY that when hes hardly even seeing his own family.