So I think I'm slowly figuring out what my issues are stemming from. Especially my anger, and the reason I pick these huge fights with my fiance at night. It has to do with the fact that I feel like when he can just fall asleep when I'm still upset it means he doesn't care. And I have to wake him up, and make sure he knows exactly what I'm feeling.

So I guess I'm wondering if anyone has any tips on how to deal with this? This urge to make sure my fiance knows exactly what i'm feeling when I'm feeling it. Is there a way to make sure my emotions and feelings still feel validated even though he's asleep? To not feel abandoned? Is this going to just be about will power?

Funny side note, though... I asked my fiance how he would feel if I fell asleep while he was upset or angry, and he said he would like it if I did, because then he would know I was calm, and he could be calm, and because he likes to watch me sleep cause I'm peaceful. Oi... Different perspectives drive me crazy...