perhaps this stems from you're having insecurities about yourself. on the other hand he may be not willing to discuss what's bothering you right before bed. it stirs a person up and makes it harder to go to sleep.
i know it must be difficult for you but yes there are ways to reassure yourself without him up. write down things you like about yourself and take the list out when u're feeling anxious. it can remind you that you are ok. this can be a challenge at first due to anxiety but you can do it with practice. one of the things u could write is, i know my bf cares a lot for me. i am not alone.
you can also journal how you are feeling during those times. believe me, it really helps to get those feelings out on paper.
here's a helpful site re your fears-
http://www.denisboyd.com/personal-gr...andonment.html
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