@ Visioneer: I understand completely. After the initial stages, I couldn't do anything right for my N too. He had something bad to say about everything I said or did. He made it known that my child had a "stupid" name to him, he told he that my handwriting was that of a retard (then later denied it...saying that "retard" was such a terrible word), asked me if I loved my daughter, because it would be terrible if I didn't love her. This went on and on.

I have to ask...when you say violent with objects...did he throw things?
Mine didn't throw things, but he did hit me. I'm not sure if it was a REAL fight, though. By that, I mean, in the past we did playfight. This particular, day it escalated to something that I don't think was playing.