I'm feeling really bad about it & don't ever want to hurt him, but I've been wanting to do it for a long time. It's just tough because I allowed him (and his cat) to move into my house over a year ago.

We were good friends for a couple years before we started dating & he moved in about a month after that. Unfortunately, he became more of a roomate w/benefits that didn't offer to help pay any of the bills... my resentment grew & whatever spark there was has dwindled. I still care about my (now ex) b/f deeply, but I can't say I was ever really "in love" with him.

Someone recently reminded me of what it feels like to be in love with someone who's in love with me... An old friend from high school... and I'd like to meet up w/him again (it's been 20 years). Not looking to rush into a new relationship... just checking him out.

Anyway, anyone been through this & have any advice? Since he's living in my house, I'm sure there are details we're going to have to go over... and he'll need time to find another place to live, etc.