I care about my T a lot because we have a real relationship and have spent many hours together in intimate conversation. He responds to me positively and with attunement. He gets me. I attune to him too. This all helps us draw closer. Given all that, of course I care about him a lot! We have been through so much together. I care about my T in a way that doesn't include agonizing over his words or a missed session. It is a lot more fun and relaxing that way!

How would you like to care about your T differently? Caring doesn't have to include agonizing. I don't know if this is something one can work on in therapy or not--changing the way one cares (like a new skill???).

I have become healthier because of the relationship.

I don't know. I just want to extend the idea that it isn't always like that and doesn't have to be that way. I wonder if there is something to the analogy that a watched kettle never sings (a watched pot never boils?--I can't remember how the saying goes!).