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Old Aug 04, 2011, 02:56 PM
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Originally Posted by seventyeight View Post
i would agree with a lot of what's already been said, and will add that i think it's actually ourselves that we "care about so much." we go to therapy for us, to share our lives with our therapists, and then they are the one holding it all. but it's "what," or rather "who," they are holding that we really care about.

that being said, i also definitely think this is true:
You know, I've been thinking about it that way also. Since I barely know anything about my T personally, there has to be some other giant element involved in the relationship. So part of it is that we're getting to see 'ourselves' in therapy and like you said, the T is holding 'us' up in order for us to get a better view of ourselves. Plus we get validated and paid attention to - which are very powerful experiences.

I've thought that it probably wouldn't matter who my T is as long as they practice that same unconditional positive regard that my T does. Of course, there's the added element of who we resonate with and we won't resonate with just any ol' T but still...
Thanks for this!
BonnieJean, rainbow8